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J. J. J. J. OCTOBER 29-30, 2011 ONLINE AT WWW.DAILYJOURNALONLINE.COM DAILY JOURNAL PAGE 5 RECORDS ADVICE OBITUARIES Alvada Bailey CUPERTINO, CALIFORNIA Alvada June (French) Bailey of Cupertino, formerly of the Whitewater Community, passed away peacefully at her home on Tuesday, October 25, 2011, at the age of 76 years, 1 month and 10 days.

Services in California will be held on Saturday, October 29. Local arrangements are pending at Cozean Memorial Chapel and Crematory. Additional information to be available at cozean.biz. William Virgil Burkett FARMINGTON William "Virgil" Burkett, 98, of Farmington passed away October 18, 2011. Memorial service today at 1 p.m.

at Cozean Memorial Chapel. Full obituary and share your memories and condolences at cozean.biz. Mr. David Lee Colson FARMINGTON Mr. David Lee Colson, 81, of Farmington passed away October 27, 2011 at Southbrook Skilled Nursing Center, Farmington.

Funeral services are presently pending at Taylor Funeral Service, Farmington. Photo Obituary and Guestbook online at: www.taylorfuneral.com Dennis Crews FARMINGTON Dennis Lynn Crews, 51 of Farmington departed this life, Thursday October 27, 2011. He was born June 7, 1960 in St. Louis. Dennis is survived by his mother, five brothers, a sister, and many other relatives and friends.

Graveside services will be held at 10 a.m. on Saturday, November 5, 2011 at Knob Lick Cemetery. Memorials may be made to BJC Hospice. Arrangements a are under the direction of the Cozean Memorial Chapel Crematory. Share your memories and condolences at cozean.biz.

Robert Joseph Dodson Sr. ST. LOUIS Robert Joseph Dodson peacefully passed on Thursday, October 27, 2011. Beloved husband and best friend of Traci L. Dodson; loving father of Robert Joseph (Lindzy) Dodson Jr.

and Luke Ames Dodson; dear son of Robert (Jean) Dodson of Bonne Terre, cherished grandfather of Robert Joseph Dodson III; dear brother of Ken (Paula) Dodson of Monett, Dickie Dodson of Pocahontas, Ark. and Susan (Michael) McGee of Bonne Terre, dear uncle, brother -inlaw, cousin and friend. He graduated class of 1973 North County High School of Desloge, Mo. We will miss his laughter, corny jokes and made up songs. Services: The family will receive friends on Sunday, October 30, in the Great Hall of Ambruster Donnelly Mortuary 6633 Clayton (Clayton) from 3-5 p.m.

Followed by a service at 5 p.m. Inurnment J.B. National Cemetery. Online condolences may be made at www.ambrusterdonnelly.com Quentin King DOE RUN Charles Quentin King, 90, formerly of Doe Run, passed away on October 24, 2011. Visitation today at Cozean Memorial Chapel at 7 a.m., with a funeral service at 10 a.m.

Full obituary and share your memories and condolences at cozean.biz. Nellie Kollmeyer FARMINGTON Kollmeyer, went to on the Nellie Marie (Laws) sleep in the arms of Jesus, evening of October 26, 2011, surrounded by her family. She had reached the age of 91 years, 5 months and 16 days. She was born May 10, 1920, just outside Farmington, the daughter of the late David Laws, and Gertrude J. (Yeargain) Laws.

She was preceded in death her husband, Eugene F. Kollmeyer; brothers: Claude, Howard, David Charles, Joel Laws; Sisters: Ruby Feezor, Mildred Hopkins and Joyce Simms; and one grandson, John L. Kollmeyer. Nellie was baptized and confirmed at St. Paul Lutheran Church, on Maundy Thursday, April 6, 1936, and continuing to be a faithful member until her death.

She and Eugene were married on August 19, 1939, and had celebrated 64 years of marriage before his death in 2004. She was active in St. Paul's Women's Club, LWML, her local Extension Club, and served as a 4-H Club Leader, as well as working many years at the St. Francois County Fair in the Jr. Show Youth Exhibits.

She and her husband were very involved in Mo. Farm Bureau activities, and enjoyed fishing, camping, traveling, auctions, collecting glassware and spending part of the winter months in Southern Texas. One of her favorite things was to be surrounded by her family, especially watching the activities of her grandchildren and greatgrandchildren. She was a very loving mother, grandmother, and great aunt and cousin. She is survived by her children: Robert (Margaret) Kollmeyer, of Summersville, Susan (Joe) Faenger; Kenny (Sharon) Kollmeyer; and Nancy (Michael) Eaves, all of Farmington.

Grandchildren: Laura (Shawn) Caldwell and Amanda (Danny) Stegall, of Bonne Terre. Kendra (Michael) Graham, of Fredericktown. Maggie Kollmeyer; Derrick Eaves; Katie Eaves; Callie (Tim) Middleton, all of Farmington. Matthew Kollmeyer, of Florida; Cody Kollmeyer, of Oklahoma, and Jennifer (Rick) Mejia, of Texas. GreatGrandchildren: Connor Caldwell, Taylor Marie Richards, Trevor and Trace Stegall, Garrett and Gavin Graham, Chase and Landon Middleton, Kiana and Ricky Mejia.

SistersIn-Law: Lee Laws, Alberta Laws and Jean Laws. Many nieces, nephews and a multitude of friends. Visitation Sunday, 5-8 p.m. at Taylor Funeral and Cremation Service, Farmington. Visitation resumes Monday, 6:30 a.m., and funeral 11:00 a.m.

at St. Paul Lutheran Church, Farmington, with Pastor James officiating. Interment follows at Lutheran Cemetery, Farmington. Memorials to: St. Paul Lutheran Church, Building Fund General Fund.

Photo Obituary and Guestbook online at: www.taylorfuneral.com Charles "Chuck" Mesey CADET Charles "Chuck" Mesey, age 29, of Cadet, Missouri, died Thursday, October 27, 2011. He is survived by: Parents, Charles Mesey and Ramona Mesey; Two Sisters, Theresa and James Kircher, Marcia and Danny Bone; Three Brothers, John and Audria Mesey, Donald Mesey and Partner Chris Benton, Jason and Jackie Mesey; Nieces and Nephews, Jamie, Jams, Hannah, Teresa, John, Nick, Amber, Daniel; Great Nieces and Nephews, Lillian, Kaleb, Silas. Visitation Tuesday, November 1, 2011 3:00 p.m. at Moore Funeral Home, Potosi, Missouri. Memorial Service 6:00 p.m.

November 1, 2011 at Moore Memorial Chapel. Arrangements by Moore Funeral Homes, Potosi, Missouri. Elizabeth 'Montgomery' Miller JUPITER, FLORIDA Elizabeth Miller, 86, passed away October 18. Visitation: today, 10:00 a.m., at Taylor Funeral and Cremation Service, Farmington. Funeral services 1:00 p.m.

at Taylor Funeral Chapel, Rev. Pete Soens officiating. Interment, Polk Cemetery, Iron County. Photo Obituary and Guestbook online: www.taylorfuneral.com Alvin Murphy FARMINGTON Alvin G. Murphy of Farmington passed away October 28, 2011, at Parkland Health Center, at the age of 91 years.

Friends may call from 4-9 p.m. at Cozean Memorial Chapel on Sunday, October 30 with a funeral service on Monday, October 31 at 1 p.m. in the Cozean Chapel. Full obituary to be published in Monday's edition. Additional information to be available at cozean.biz.

years, Doris J. (Frazier-Kerby) Reeves; children, Susan Gilbert, William Reeves (Debra), Sally Reeves and Thomas "Joe" Reeves; grandchildren, John "Thomas" Gilbert, Scott Gilbert, Hannah Reeves (Michael Bostwick), Casey Reeves, Amy Hayman, Jake Theodore Reeves FESTUS Theodore J. Reeves died on Wednesday, October 26, 2011 at the age of 83. He is survived by his loving wife of twenty Hayman, Robert "Cody" Hayman, and Justin Reeves; step- granddaughter, Emily Ponath (Jeff); stepson, Rex Kerby (Christy); step- grandchildren, Cody Kerby and Heather Mackenzie Kerby; great granddaughter, Eugenia "Hennie" Reeves Bostwick; sistersin-law, Connie (Robert) Wooten, Carolyn (James) Thompson, Nellie Barger (John), Deborah Deatherage (Daniel); brother-in-law, Roy James Frazier (Cheryl); aunt Mildred Penry and cousin Bud Reeves (Sue). He was preceded in death by one son, Daniel J.

Reeves. He was also preceded in death by his beloved dog and faithful companion, Mollie "Precious." Ted was one of the initial principal partners of Reeves Gastorf, a St. Louis- based utility contracting firm. He later associated with Bloomsdale Excavating Company, then formed and served as president of GWS Contractors, Inc. in Park Hills for over 30 years.

He was past president of the Missouri Association of Plumbing, Heating and Cooling Contractors. He also served on several committees with the Mechanical Contractors Association of Eastern Missouri. He was selected and served as a representative of the -People Exchange Group in an international exchange program with the People's Republic of China. Ted served as Chairman of the Festus-Crystal City Sewage Treatment Commission from 1993-2003. He was a licensed professional surveyor, master plumber, mechanical engineer, inventor and entrepreneur.

During his career he befriended many and was well -regarded in the industry. Ted received his bachelor's degree in Civil Engineering from the Missouri School of Mines and Metallurgy (formerly UMR, now Missouri School of Science and Technology). He was a member of the Sigma Nu Fraternity. At the age of seventy-nine he was inducted into the UMR Sports Hall of Fame, as a former member of the 1947-1950 UMR track and field team. He excelled at many sports, including football, track and boxing, and spent many untold hours as a volunteer coach for others.

Ted was an active member of American Legion Post VFW Post 3777 and Festus Elks Lodge 1721. He served on several local advisory boards in and around the City area. Ted invested much of his time and energy mentoring his children and grandchildren and he served as a pillar of strength and guidance to his wife and family. Those who knew him will miss his heartfelt kindness, sense of humor, friendship, intellect and his contagious love of life. In State Visitation, 4-8 p.m.

Sunday, October 30 at Mahn Funeral Home, Festus Chapel. Services will be held at Mahn Funeral Home, 515 Collins Drive, Festus, Missouri, on Monday October 31, 2011 at 11 a.m. Interment will be immediately following the funeral service and will be held at Rose Lawn Memorial Gardens, 709 Leland Drive, Festus, Missouri. In lieu of flowers, memorials may be made to the Leukemia Society of America at 500 Third Avenue, New York, NY 10016-1900 or American Red Cross. Joseph William Wells FARMINGTON Joseph William Wells 64 of Farmington formerly of St.

Louis County, passed away in Littleton, Colorado as a result of an automobile accident. Arrangements pending at C.Z. Boyer and Son Funeral Home in Desloge, Missouri. DEAR ABBY DEAR ABBY: My younger not drinking, and not associatsister is getting married next ing with others when they month and has requested that drink. I have never gotten no kids be brought to the drunk, but I do have one or two reception.

My "kids" drinks a month with are teenagers and I friends. When I menfeel that at least chil- tioned it to Adam, he dren of the immediate became extremely family should be frustrated. Now allowed to attend. things have become Incidentally, Sis and rocky between us. her fiance have a little I feel like I have girl and boy who will done something devserve as a flower girl astatingly wrong, even and ring bearer.

The Advice though I know I children will partici- haven't. I can't prompate in the wedding Dear Abby ise Adam I'll never party introductions, drink again, but I then will be carted off. respect his values enough to Finally, she wants my 15- keep to the couple of drinks per year- -old to baby- -sit the young month and no more. I feel he cousins. Because we don't doesn't trust me now.

What think it's right, we have decided should I do? I love Adam and that we will attend the wedding want to make things right, but I ceremony but not the recep- won't make a promise I know I tion. It is not my intention not can't keep. HARDLY A to share her moment, but I'm DRUNK IN SEATTLE afraid my teenagers won't DEAR HARDLY A understand why they can't cel- DRUNK: I wish you had told ebrate their aunt's special day. me why your boyfriend is so Am I making too much of this? against being involved with RSVP UNDECIDED IN someone who has an occasional NORTH CAROLINA drink. Were his parents alcoDEAR UNDECIDED: Your holics? Is he in recovery? Was sister's reason for excluding he upset because it took "children" could be budgetary years for you to tell him you or fear that young children have a drink or two a month could be disruptive.

By saying with your friends, and that's "no children" she is trying to be why he "doesn't trust fair to all the parents. However, While you and I may think if she wants your daughter to your boyfriend's attitude is baby-sit, she should make the unreasonable, it's clear to me arrangements with your that if you want him, you will daughter including offering have to take "the pledge." And to pay her for her time espe- if you can't do that, Adam is cially if there will be more chil- not The One for you. dren than the flower girl and ring bearer in her care. Dear Abby is written by DEAR ABBY: My Abigail Van Buren, also known boyfriend, "Adam," and I have as Jeanne Phillips, and was been together for three years, founded by her mother, Pauline and hopefully will be for many Phillips. Write Dear Abby at more to come.

One of the core www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box values he feels strongly about is 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069. DR. I'm a 30-year-old man. rence, but it may also help you Like many of my friends, I've to avoid kidney stones in the gained weight since college.

I first place. Here are a few pointread that being overweight can ers: lead to kidney stones. Keep your fluid years, A friend who just had kidney stones told me that passing them was incredibly painful. I'd like to lose weight, but until I succeed, is there anything I can do to prevent kidney stones? When it comes to illnesses, there are worse things than kidney stones. But when Advice Dr.

Komaroff it comes to pain, the passing of a stone is near the top of the list. Kidney stones are excruciatingly painful when they travel through the ureters, the tubes that connect the kidneys to the bladder. As you may know, kidney stones are hard, chemical and mineral deposits that form inside the kidneys. Tiny stones may pass out of the body in urine without causing any discomfort. In fact, about nine out of 10 kidney stones will pass on their own within three to six weeks after forming.

However, a deposit can grow to be the size of a pea, a marble br even larger. These large stones may irritate the narrow ureter, causing pain and bleeding. Stones greater than onefifth of an inch may have difficulty passing through the narrow ureter. Even worse, a stone may become lodged in the ureter, blocking the passage of urine and threatening to damage the kidney itself. The number of Americans suffering from kidney stones is increasing, perhaps because of the increasing prevalence of obesity.

In general, stones strike men twice as often as women. A Harvard study of nearly 46,000 men (ages 40 to 75) found that high body mass indexes and large waist circumferences are both linked to an increased risk of kidney stones. And research from Europe and Asia shows that overweight people dump excess amounts of calcium and other chemicals into their urine, where the chemicals form stones. Each year about a million Americans undergo treatment for kidney stones. One option is lithotripsy, a treatment that uses a series of ultrasonic shock waves to break up large stones into smaller ones that can be passed out of the body when you urinate.

But your focus on prevention is a good one because once you get kidney stones, the chance of getting them again is high. Much of the prevention advice is aimed at fending off a recur- intake up. Kidney stones form when certain chemicals and minerals concentrate in the urine and form crystals. Drink plenty of fluids water is the safest bet. This will increase the amount of water in your urine, so those mineral concentrations don't get too high.

She by Eat calcium-rich foods. Calcium is a major component in about 85 percent of kidney stones, so it seems logical to avoid calcium in your diet, not seek it out. But most stones are composed of calcium combined with a substance called oxalate. If there is plenty of calcium in your diet, the calcium binds to oxalate in your intestines, keeping oxalate out of your bloodstream and urine. Less oxalate in the urine means fewer opportunities for calcium oxalate to form and fewer kidney stones.

Calcium-rich foods include nonfat dairy products, leafy green vegetables and some varieties of fish, such as salmon. Reconsider calcium supplements. This recommendation pertains mostly to women, who are often encouraged to take daily calcium supplements to promote bone strength, but the advice applies to men as well. Results from the Harvardbased Nurses' Health Study showed that postmenopausal women who took calcium supplements were 20 percent more likely to develop kidney stones than women who didn't. Moderate your sodium intake.

Low diets decrease urinary excretion of calcium. Moderate your protein intake. Protein can increase calcium and oxalate excretion, raising the probability of stone formation. High -protein diets may also reduce the levels of stone- inhibiting substances in the urine. A number of risk factors contribute to kidney stone formation, including certain medical conditions.

While the guidelines above are a good way to start reducing your risk of stones, your doctor may have good advice about personal prevention strategies for you. As your friend can tell you, it's far better to prevent kidney stones than to spend a night in terrible pain with a stone that just doesn't want to pass. (Submit questions to.