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FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 21, 2003 QNLINEATWWW.MYDJCONNECTION.COM DAILY JOURNAL PAGE 7 Dear Abby Obituaries You're a military wife now, and it's important that you stay strong for your and hung out together until Jerry was deployed to Japan. Hank remained here and comes over from time to time to play with our son. For the most part, I am content in my marriage, ean Memorial Chapel after 5 p.m. on Thursday, November 20, 2003. Funeral services will be held at the Cozean Chapel on Friday at 11 a.m.

with the" Rev. Randy Rains officiating. Burial will follow at the Hillview Memorial Gardens. Memorials may be directed to the First Free Will Baptist Church Youth Group of Farmington. Complete obituary online at: wvvw.cozeanfur.er- him.

Write to him. A Keep yourself pied. Fill your time Advice DEAR ABBY: I am 14 and recently went snooping through some old boxes in the attic. In one of them, I found a wedding picture with my mother as a bride. I was shocked to see that the groom was not my father.

He was a man who is a friend of the family! The date on the photograph is 1980. 1 had no clue that my mother was ever married before. Do you think my father knows? I don't know what to do with this news. IN SHOCK IN OREGON DEAR IN SHOCK: Here's what to do with the "news." Show the wedding picture to your mother and say, "That must have been some costume party!" Seriously, I'm sure her first marriage isn't meant to be a deep, dark family secret. I'm also sure your father is aware of it, because a prior marriage is something that someone HAS to reveal before remarrying; the question is asked at the registrar's office when a couple applies 1 for a marriage license.

DEAR ABBY: I am a 26-year-old married woman. "Jerry" and I have been mar ried just a year, but we've been together for almost four. We have one child who is 3 and another on the way. Jerry joined the Navy soon after oar wedding. met "Hank" in boot camp, and they became good friends Farmington Assembly of God Church.

She is survived by a son, David L. Swift of Alexandra, two granddaughters, Kira Bolton and Angela Swift, and a grandson, Nicholas Swift, all of the State of Louisiana. Friends may call at the Cozean Memorial Chapel from 3 to 5 p.m. on Friday, November 21, 2003. Burial will be at the Old Dexter Cemetery in Dexter.

Complete obituary online at: www.cozeanfuneral-home.com. Linsey Dann FARMINGTON Linsey Alycia Dann of Ste. Genevieve passed away on November 18. 2003, at her residence at the age of 14 years. She was born on May 16, 1989.

at Farming-ton, the daughter of Kelly (Gore) Harris of Ste. Genevieve and Henrv Dann of-Oeala. Fla. -was a student at Farmington High School. She attended the First Free Will Baptist Church of Farmington and was part of their youth" group.

In addition to her parents, she is survived by her stepfather, Randy Harris, a brotn- er. Josh Dann. a sister, Amanda Dann both of the home, a half-sister, Danielle Hammers, two step-brothers. Jason and Nick Harris of Leadwood. a step-sister, -Becca Harris- of Desloge.

grandparents, John and Connie Gore of Genevieve, and Roy and Kath- leen Kitchell of Farmington. Several aunts, uncles, relatives and friends also survive. r. Friends mav call at the Coz- Florence Gustafson FARMINGTON Florence Amanda Gustafson of Farm-ington passed away on November 19, 2003, at the St. Francois Manor at the age of 87 years.

She was born on June 20, 1916, at Farmington, the daughter of the late James J. and Amanda (Mudd) Ryan. She was also preceded in death by her husband, Harry Gustafson, and a brother, Ralph Ryan, Before her retirement, Mrs. Gustafson was a receptionist and lived in Seattle, Wash, for many years. She is survived by a brother, R.

Lansing Ryan and wife Pearl of Farmington, two nephews, Charles Ryan of Farmington and Terry Ryan of Columbia, 111., and a niece, Gaynell Ryan of Edwardsville, 111. Graveside services will be held at the Old Calvary Ceme- ten7 at 10 am. on Tuesday, November 25. 2003. Memorials may be directed to Hospice-Care, Inc.

are under the direction of Cozean Memorial Chapel. Complete obituary online at: www.coz-eanfuneralhome.com. Neoma Ledbetter FARMINGTON Neoma Estella Ledbetter of Farming-ton passed away on November 19. 2003, at Southbrook Skilled Nursing Center at the age of 94 years. She was born on February 6, 1909, in Megee, the daughter of the late Albert L.

and Mamie Catherine (Rhodes) Rippie. She was also preceded in death by first husband, Samuel Oden Swift, second husband, Jesse Ledbetter, two brothers, Robert and Clarence Rippie. Before her retirement. Mrs. Ledbetter worked as a Licensed Practical Nurse at City Hospital in St.

Louis. She was also a member of the alhome.com. Mrs. Lynnette Munro FARMINGTON Lynnette Ruth Sago Munro, 52, passed away November 19, 2003, at her Farmington residence. Lynnette was born November 18.

1951, at Bonne Terre. She was preceded-in-death by: Her father, Louis Glen Sago and one sister Sandra Straughan. Lynnette is survived by: Her husband, Donald Neil Munro. of Farmington; One daughter. Cynthia Donald' Russell, of Ste.

Genevieve; her mother, Ruth R. Holland' Sago, of Farmington. One sister, Billie 'Mrs. Bruce' Jones, of Bonne Terre. Two brothers: Danniel J.

(and Susan) Sago, of Charles; Glenn (and Jane) Sago of Arkansas. One very special grandson, Andrew Neil Munro, of Ste, Genevieve. Also, several other special nieces; nephews and friends. Visitation starts today at 10:00 a.m., and funeral today, 1:00 p.m., at Taylor Funeral Service with Rev. James King officiat- ing.

Interment following at. l-Lutheran Cemetery, Farming-: ton. Memorials to; Donor's Choice. Photo obituary online at: www.taviorfuneral.com so you won have time to dwell on Hank. DEAR ABBY: I am having a terrible time with mv husband, "Josh." We DEAR ABBY have been married almost 10 years, but the last six have been miserable.

Josh refuses to work on a regular basis. He's a compulsive liar who looks me right in the eye and lies with conviction. 1 know my marriage is over, but I am afraid of how a divorce will affect our kids. It has gotten so bad the kids ask me why I am always unhappy. I am heartbroken, Abby.

I know I need to make the break and move on but how? HEARTBROKEN WIFE IN NEW JERSEY DEAR HEARTBROKEN: Tell your husband you will no longer tolerate the lying, and offer him the chance to take hisproblem to a therapist. If he refuses, give serious thought to how living with a compulsive liar will affect and then consult an attorney. You did not create this problem, so stop feeling guilty about protecting yourself and the intensity of her response. Consequently, I decided that I would at least inform wives when their husbands were Advice given Viagra. But that hasn worked either.

but lately I've had strong feelings for Hank. Hank has told me he has feelings for me, too. Now I'm mixed up about everything. I don't know if I could ever leave my marriage, but more and more I can rure myself with Hank. Please don't get me wrong.

Abby. I've never been one to -do wild and crazy things, but right now I feel like I have no control over this. Jerry doesn't suspect anything and I don't know if I need to tell him --after all, Hank and I haven't "slipped." But my feelings are too strong to ignore. Please help. CONFUSED NAVY WIFE IN CALIFORNIA DEAR CONFUSED NAVY WIFE: Your husband is away.

You are lonely. You are pregnant with your second child, and you are feeling vulnera- ble. However, you have more control than you think. You can stop seeing Hank so you will no longer be tempted to "slip." If you feel you need emotional support, speak to a chaplain on the naval base. orgasm, this concerned him therefore, after confirming that my exam was normal, I gave him a free sample of Viagra.

Two days later, I received an emergency telephone call from his furious wife. "What exactly do you think you are pulling?" she demanded. "I thought that we had finished all that foolishness years ago. Now you've gone and upset the applecart. Thanks to your medication, he now feels entitled to and can perform sexual activity with me, an option that I don't want.

Thanks a bunch!" I was mollified bv the 11 Come Celebrate tlie Holiday Season Friday Nov. 21 Saturday Sunday "Nov, 22 23 Christmas Open House Therr1Hbe Husbands, as a PETER H. general rule, don't GOTT, M.D. want me discussing these issues with dnrainoi 4 rC and tOB -J iTf I HOME GALLERY Call 431-2010 or stop by the Park Hills or Farmington offices. (Siycf to tvDkty 'i their spouses.

Therefore, I stuck. How have I resolved the situation? By meeting with the husband' and wife. In this role, I am the arbitrator, not the authority. We --can enjoy a frank discussion. The couple can openly review their concerns and wishes.

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Gott DEAR DR. GOTT: My urologist recently advised me to have more sex to help with a prostate infection. Was he serious? DEAR READER: In all likelihood, yes. Although prostatitis is customarily treated with antibiotics, some types of irritation appear to be related to unrelieved prostatic congestion. Such congestion can often be released by sexual activity.

Thus, if you enjoy sex rather infrequently, your urologist may well have been serious when he advised you as he did. On the other hand, some authorities, who believe that extended celibacy is not a common factor in prostatic infection, point to the fact that this affliction is also prevalent in sexually active men. Therefore, if you already enjoy sex once a week or more or if you are in your 80s and aren't particularly inclined your urologist may have been pulling your leg. A final comment. Your urologist should, in my opinion, have discussed his recommendation with your because she is a vital part of the "therapy" (unless he substituted masturbation).

It's always a good idea to include sexual partners in these discussions. Here's a personal anecdote: About two years ago, I saw a healthy 60-year-old gentleman in the office for a routine exam. In the course of conversing with him, I learned that he was unable to achieve an erection or I PL Doe Run, Missouri Where Our Trees Are Your Tradition 1 573 I Hours: Daily Dusk I Cut Your Own Choose from pre-cuts FRESH A i. A 0 A DISH Player-DVR 510: DIGITAL VIDEO RECORDER 120 gigabyte hard drive Parental lock-out features Free Standard Professional Installation DISH Yideo-On-Demand Service Automatically record your favorite shews Skip recorded commercials Pause and Replay Live TV Mchtum S4.9MM. KSfl Me04aund Sennet tM wtetortht PVH norm.

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